Baby gay

I’d never been afraid to express myself, but being around people who didn’t worry about pushing boundaries helped me become my authentic self. 

At first glance, baby gay is a bit deceiving. In the moment, my mind was racing, trying to decide if we were just friends or something more. I know a lot of friends around my age who experienced a similar reaction from some loved ones, that we were going down a road of agony and loneliness.  

To be queer in this world does mean navigating discrimination in health care, housing, marriage, custody, work, and more.

I had all the characteristic awkwardness of any teenager finding themselves, but I felt I took who I was in my stride and had no apprehensions about expressing who I was and who I liked. 

However, moving out of my small town to go to university in a bigger city opened my eyes to how much further I had to go before I could say I’d truly outgrown my queer infancy.

It was a fictional comedy based on my coming out story - someone coming out later in life."

"And what formed was the web series called 'Baby Gay,' because for me, it wasn't until I saw someone else's story that was already out, that I saw myself in, that it kind of unlocked something within me that said, 'Oh, there.

So if you’re just coming out, I’m so happy you’re here. Claim your community and resilience — it’s how we made it this far. 

Exploring queer pop culture 

Outside of dating, there are endless ways to explore queer culture. These care packages serve as a beacon of support, providing essential resources and genuine connection for those beginning their coming out journey.

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But we were comparing the size of our fingers. But for the pop-culturally inclined like myself, here are some recommendations for movies, books, and TV shows to get into: 

My non-exhaustive list of pop culture for the baby gays 

Books 

• If you like a fun, flirty romance: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo
• If you are into literary fiction: My Autobiography of Carson McCullers 
• If you want a celebrity memoir: Pageboy 

Movies

• Teen drama vibes: But I’m a Cheerleader
• Camp on a budget: D.E.B.S. 
• Long walks on the ocean, longing stares, and no electricity because its the 1700s: Portrait of a Lady on Fire
• Why are gay women obsessed with Cate Blanchett?: Carol 

TV Shows 

• Silly but it will also break your heart: Feel Good
• Lesbians that will be in your nightmares: Haunting of Bly Manor, Yellowjackets
• Family drama with amazing sex scenes: Vida 
• Messy reality TV: The Ultimatum: Queer Love

When do you stop being a baby gay? 

In a heteronormative society, we certainly never stop coming out.

So start there and be clear about how you feel and what you want from the beginning. It's really giving me purpose to participate with PJ and National Coming Out Day celebrations."

Abdullah Hall, a Baby Gay board member, added, "I saw this booth and I'm like, 'What is Baby Gay?' And so PJ Brescia was there and said, 'Oh, this is Baby Gay,' and told me it's a 501(c)(3) nonprofit that assists in the coming out process."

"'Would you like to leave a message to a new person that's coming out?' and I thought, that is brilliant.

But to be fair, sometimes coming out does feel like learning to be a whole new person. Anti-LGBTQ legislation is on the rise in the US and around the world. By sharing coming out stories, advice, and support from LGBTQ+ community members, we provide crucial connection and guidance for those who don't have access to local queer communities, ensuring no one has to navigate their journey alone.